Pass The Pink, Please.10:43 AM
Over the past few months, possibly longer (because I'll be honest, I don't always pay that close attention to my surroundings, just ask that wall I walked into last week), I have noticed a lot of my friends on Facebook, twitter, etc. post something that they really enjoy, and then immediately apologize for it. Understandable if you have posted several times that day/week/month on the same topic, and you want to apologize for repetitiveness, okay, makes sense. However, the things that I see people apologize for are pretty ridiculous.
"OMG! Look at these boots! They are so cute! Haha, sorry for being girlie, I love shoes."
"IDK why I am want to watch all of these "girlie" movies right now, sorry but I like them, lol."
"I just bought this new *insert hair product here* and I love it! Sorry for being so girlie right now, lol."
I guess there are two issues here: What constitutes as "girlie", and why is there a need to apologize for it? Shoes/boots, "chick-flicks", and hair products are often targeted at women, but that does not mean that they are not gender-neutral.
Ex: All of my brothers and several men that I work with have seen "Mean Girls", and some of them will even spew out quotes for you on que. My dad sat down to watch "The Devil Wears Prada" with me when it came out on DVD. Kyle's favorite movie is "The Notebook". Ever since beards have become trendy, I cannot tell you how much of my instagram is filled with dudes posting selfies of their "freshly washed face-manes", or posting photos of their favorite beard balm. Excited about shoes? Well don't feel bad about it. Nelly created a very catchy song about shopping for Air Force Ones, and it was a hit.
"New Girl' dedicated an entire episode to addressing this bullshittery.
Maybe you grew up listening to heavy metal and suddenly like a Katy Perry song. Or, maybe you worked your ass off to get through law school, don a pantsuit every day, but find yourself wanting a pink bike. These things are okay! Our society is so obsessed with putting people into little categories, that we often only see one side of someone's personality. Think about your friends for a moment, when your best friend pops into mind, how do you describe him/her to others? I often used to describe one of my friends as "a mom", because she is one. It wasn't really fair to think of her just as a mom, she is also a really awesome cook, an incredible artist, and she also thinks fart jokes are the funniest thing ever.
The point is, we all have multiple interests. Some of them are obviously going to be more prominent than others, especially as we grow older and are exposed to new things. There is nothing wrong with wanting to wear a bow in your hair, just as there is nothing wrong with wanting to wear a pantsuit every day. What you like does not dictate your strength, or your intelligence.
In the 1970's, Sarah Jane Smith tells it like it is.
So why is this a big deal? I don't want to tell people what to do with their lives, it is their prerogative. However, we also live in a society where it is considered 'cool' for little girls to be tomboys, while boys that play with dolls are considered 'sissies'. My dad taught my brothers as well as myself, how to change the oil on our first cars. He also taught all of us how to cook basic things in the kitchen. My mother showed both my brother Mark and I how to change our younger brother's diapers. These were all considered things that we needed to learn how to do. 15 years later, I live in world where Bic has specially made ink pens, with pink and purple ink, labeled 'for her'. Um, okay, so I am not supposed to use the manly blue and black ink pens? My brother Mark's favorite color is purple, and he is supposed to be discouraged from using the pink and purple ones? We already are encouraged to not be gender-neutral, so why is it when we do like something feminine, we have to apologize for it? I can work just as hard at my job in a skirt on Monday, as I can on casual Friday in my jeans.
Femininity does not make you weak.
FEMININITY DOES NOT MAKE YOU WEAK.
You do not have to like most feminine things, or any for that matter. However, how about not assuming that the girl in the frilly skirt is only concerned about shopping, or that the boy in the ballet class won't also kick your ass if you make fun of him. If you want a more humorous, but also very accurate depiction of a female kicking ass while wearing a cute skirt, watch "Legally Blonde". While I am at it, don't ever apologize for being a dork/geek/nerd/jock/goth/being straight edge/etc. Because that is a part of who you are, and if I could, I would personally deliver a falcon-punch to the throat to anyone who makes fun of you for expressing that.
Now excuse me while I change the oil in my pink car.