When I started my 10k training, I knew that I was not going to drop 5 pounds in a week. I knew that it would take a lot of work to be able to run a few miles without stopping, let alone over 6. There are a lot of things in my life that are hard to deal with, and, even though I am all sunshine and rainbows 100% of the time (sarcasm), it is never easy to deal with unwanted criticism, unsolicited advice, sarcastic comment or unwanted opinions. But they will always be there, and matter-of-fact, I myself have spoken my opinion to others and have them not agree with me. In a perfect world, everyone would leave each other alone unless we ask for it. But we don’t live in such a world, hell our world has bigger issues than the one I am addressing on this blog. Last week at work, a co-worker asked if I had gained weight because it looked like my face and butt had gotten bigger. This is of course after I had lost five-pounds and had been busting my ass all week in my training, but the comment didn’t hurt me as much as aggravate me. So what if I am a little bigger? I am working on becoming healthier, but that is my personal goal and in the meantime, I am not overweight. Comments and opinions are not given by co-works, people you barely know, oh no. I was asked in a condescending way at a restaurant if I were Mormon because I wore a long dress while the accuser was dressed for a Britney Spears video. Well, I am not Mormon, but what if I were? Also, I did not comment on how the other girl was dressed, so why was I ridiculed for being a little more modest on a night out? I mean, I have worn my fair share of mini-skirts, but on that particular night I decided to wear that dress because I liked how I looked in it. But what if I lived a life where I chose to wear only modest clothing? Should I feel bad for choosing to do so? Or live a life where I wore skimpy clothing because I felt I looked good in it? It doesn’t end at appearance either, I have had people constantly ask me when I am having a kid, why I chose to have the wedding where it is, why my hair is two different colors, point out every single day that I have a big ass. I have had close friends and family offer their opinions on matters that I did not want. Most of the time, when people close to you do this it is because they feel that they are looking out for you, or that they went through a similar experience as you. Sometimes people do it because they are unhappy with their own lives so they criticize yours to make themselves feel better. Other times people feel they would react differently to a situation, be it big or small, so they comment on how you do. I have been called bitchy, aggressive, short-tempered, bossy, demanding, timid, over-focused, self-centered, anti-social, too shy, and too quiet, you name it. Often times I realize the people criticizing me have their own issues to deal with, or they are just not the same personality type as me, or as I said before they might be looking out for me. The thing is, unless someone asks for an opinion, be it on a top they chose to wear or a decision to have a child, or career change, don’t give it unless they ask. Because most of the time, it just feels like people are trying to change you, and as we all know, we were all made differently. We all chose to do and say the things we do because we are different as individuals, why would we all want the same things? Where is the creativity and variety in that? I didn’t mean for this post to go on for so long or to be a rant by any means, but just to spread awareness on how little comments or big opinions can come across to the recipient. And, as I finish this up, I do realize that I am actually giving advice by telling you all to be weary on what you say, but to keep it simple, think about what you say when you say it, and how you would feel if someone said it to you. Ask yourself next time you comment on a friend’s reaction to something if your friend would say anything to you if you were in that situation. Just because you had kids right after you got married, doesn’t mean everyone does-or maybe they don’t want kids at all, and that is their choice. Unless someone is in danger to themselves or others, it is okay to bite your tongue.